The delicate blue flowers which we give this name are powerful symbols of our connection to ourselves and to each other - they remind us to remember those we have lost, in whatever capacity we’ve lost them.
We all have a fear of being forgotten by others and of forgetting those we love. This deep fear is known as Athazagoraphobia.
It’s the fear of forgetting, or being forgotten or ignored, or of being replaced.
We all suffer this fear lots of times in our lives.
When we are forced to face our own mortality, when we are experiencing separations from a partner or loved one... It can even form a part of the anxiety we can sometimes feel when moving to a new home, new place of work, new school or new area.
We fear death because we fear being forgotten by those we love, but if we were loved, that type of love is never washed away.
We imprint a part of ourselves onto the people we spend time with, and the spaces we spend time in. But because of this imprinting of ourselves onto other things and people, it can also mean we hold a genuine fear of movement or progression.
In relationships, when we have breakups with a partner, and we may not hear from them for a while, a fear creeps in of being forgotten by them. If prolonged, that can lead to feelings of us being replaced in their lives.
When there’s separation in a relationship, it’s often hard to let go for a fear of being forgotten by them, replaced by others, or of forgetting the person we once loved.
The same is true for the attachments we develop with places too.
If we’ve lived in a home for a long time, but we need to - or want to - move to a different one, we can often fear losing the connections we have to our old home, the memories, the experiences and the feelings we hold around those connections.
Even after we move home, and if we have to go back to our old house and see its new occupants (to collect mail or for some other reason) and we see they’ve changed the decor, or pulled down the tree we planted, or ripped out the fireplace, it still gives us an odd feeling that we’ve been replaced and our memories and attachments to that space, have been displaced.
When we leave school, we can often get anxious that all our friends will forget us and that we won’t remember them ourselves. It can be an emotional time.
All of these feelings are perfectly natural and we all experience them from time to time. But loss - and dealing with that - is a part of our natural cycles of evolution. We have to move on in life, in order to grow and move forward.
Very often we don’t ever forget the spaces we call home and the people we share our lives with.
They too don’t forget us - once there has been an interaction of our auras, there will forever be a handprint of our being on that person or in that space.
Sometimes we feel it deeply and sometimes not so much, but it’s always there.
The more loved and loving you’ve been, the bigger the imprint. The more love that was shown and shared in a space, the bigger the imprint on our being.
The same can also be true about negative experiences too, but those can eventually be washed off by compassion, time and healing.
So don’t ever fear moving forward through fear of being forgotten or of forgetting.
There’s a reason we have a memory, and it’s to remind us of where we’ve been, where we’re going, where we want to be and how we’ve gotten here.
All of those handprints of the past push us forward towards exactly where we are meant to be.
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